As a working mom with a two-year-old, I find myself exhausted all the time.
I don’t know how I’m going to manage with two.
I miss the days when Jordan was a baby and everything seemed to come together so easily. I used to pride myself in my time management skills and how swiftly I managed all my child rearing activities. Give the baby a bath before work? No problem! Put him to bed at 7 pm? Cake. Change his diaper while I got ready? Easy-schmeezy.
Then, he turned 2. And it all went out the window.
You’ll never understand what it’s like until you have a very mobile, fiercely independent two-year-old on your hands. In the mornings, getting him dressed is like wrangling an alligator. I have to cajole and beg for him to brush his teeth so we can get out the door at a decent time. And getting him dressed is a gamble since he is now adamant about what he wants to wear every morning. Which means sending him to school in his pjs on some days.
I read this article on Babycenter.com about
“Secrets of Successful Moms.” Interestingly enough, the common denominator was that many of these women stayed at home, either as SAHMs or as part of running their own companies from home. Not fair. Why don’t they include women who actually have to leave the house to get work done? Or how do women who work industrial or shift jobs do it? Or is it that they feel these women aren’t successful moms?
It frightens me. Leaving my career to stay home is not an option. I’ve worked too hard to get to where I’m at and I’m making no apologies for it. But I’d hate for my family to suffer. It’s the never-ending riddle for working moms, right?
Well, I’ve come up with a few “secrets” of my own. Nothing extensive, and probably nothing earth-shattering either, but if it helps, all the better. And this, of course, is subject to change, once baby #2 comes along.
Tip #1: Outsource. Whether it be the cleaning, the cooking or even the babysitting from time-to-time, find someone who can help you. I’m a huge fan of mommy-day-out programs. I think the kids get much needed interaction and you get much-needed rest. I personally have chosen to outsource the cleaning of our house. Ever since we hired a housekeeper, I’ve been a much happier person.
Tip #2: Pick your battles. So what if your kid goes to school in pjs? If he wants cereal for dinner, then so be it. It is extremely hard to control every minute of your kid’s day. That being said, that doesn’t mean give your kid free-reign. Set some non-negotiables, such as issues that deal with safety and hygiene.
Tip #3: Assign tasks to your husband. Make it clear who’s in charge of what. In my household, Jon’s in charge of the morning routine, and I’m in charge of the evening routine.
Tip #4: Put up a united front. Even at two, Jordan notices if one of us is the weak one. So we’ve made a conscious decision to be together on our discipline issues. Even if you don’t agree, don’t make it obvious in front of your kid.